Arsenal boss Arsene Wenger labelled Spurs "liars" in the wake of Saturday's North London derby at Highbury.
Wenger (left) and Jol were kept apart by the fourth official
Emmanuel Eboue and Gilberto Silva were injured as Edgar Davids set up Robbie Keane for the game's opening goal.
Wenger claimed Spurs should have put the ball out of play, refusing to believe their explanation that they did not see the injured Arsenal duo.
"Their first goal was a disgrace. They lie when they say they didn't see it," said Wenger after the 1-1 draw.
"I can't believe they didn't see it. Of course they lie. I find it very disappointing and it is a shame that a thing like that can happen.
"It is nothing to do with the stakes riding on the game. It is whether you think something is fair or unfair. You expect to get the ball back there.
"We did it on Wednesday against Villarreal in the Champions League every time, even when we sometimes felt it was unfair for them to get it back."
Wenger added: "If that's the way they want to behave then that is their responsibility, but I don't agree with that.
"I don't agree with it and if football goes that way it becomes very petty."
Wenger accepted the result puts Spurs in pole position to seal fourth place.
Arsenal have a game in hand on their North London rivals but trail them by four points.
The Gunners have three matches left but still need Spurs to slip up to finish above them in the table.
"Mathematically it is in their hands now," said Wenger.
"They played very well but we didn't expect to drop two points like that, and in that way."