By Kevin Nolan
I have never been as low in my career as I was after being given a red card at Blackburn on Sunday.
It was the first red I have been shown as a professional and it was something that I never wanted to happen.
Football is a very emotional game - I love playing for Bolton and the match at Blackburn was a big game with a lot at stake
Needless to say I was very upset with what happened, absolutely gutted to tell the truth, and did not sleep much on Sunday and Monday.
I apologised to the lads afterwards but they knew that I was trying to fight our corner.
I thought both the penalties we conceded in the final minutes of our 1-0 win at Blackburn were questionable - and question them is exactly what I did.
Football is a very emotional game. I love playing for, and captaining, Bolton and the match was a big derby with a lot at stake.
I was booked following my rant at referee Mike Dean after he gave the first penalty and did not feel I said anything to him after the second penalty that warranted a straight red card.
As I ran past him I said something like "that is twice now".
He must have thought I said something else because he pulled me up and sent me from the field.
In that sense I do maintain my innocence but it is one of those things and I do not have any choice but to take the three-match suspension on the chin.
Unfortunately the three matches I miss are all massive fixtures - at Charlton in the Carling Cup and Premiership games against Manchester United and Wigan.
I travelled down to London on Wednesday to watch them play Charlton in the Carling Cup and will be at the other two games as well.
I will be cheering on the lads and I'm desperate to see them do well but I imagine there will be a tinge of regret that I am not able to play in them.
A lot of my bookings are down to my mouth - I have to learn when to shut up
I have scored a few goals against Manchester United, who are just a couple of points ahead of us in the Premiership.
We have not conceded at home this season and I'm gutted to be missing such a massive game.
It is so hard watching, especially when you know that you cannot put on your kit and help out.
Although I will be there against United on Saturday in some ways you don't quite feel part of it when you are not playing.
I just have to learn from the experience and make sure it does not happen again.
I have had a private chat with Sam Allardyce about the incident and we concluded that I have to let my feet do the talking.
A lot of my bookings are down to my mouth and I have to learn when to shut up - though teaching a scouser to be quiet is far from easy!
YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED
Hi Kevin, I enjoy reading the column and find your honesty refreshing.
I have two questions if that's cool?
Firstly, does it annoy you if when after you have lost a match an interviewer asks you how it feels?
Secondly, it annoys me greatly when there is a free-kick and the wall shuffles forward a couple of yards immediately, technically it is cheating. What are your views?
It is a question an interviewer probably has to ask but, especially after a game you felt unlucky to lose, it is not really what you want to hear.
With regard to the second part - I line our wall up at Bolton and do try to pinch a yard or so. Referees are becoming a lot stricter on this issue and have made it clear they will yellow card players for encroaching.
That said, I'll probably back off a bit because I do not like being hit in the face.
Love the column! Do you have any nicknames from the Bolton or the Nicosia lads?
The nickname that I have at Bolton is Nobby.
I picked it up on a pre-season tour to Denmark about six or seven years ago when the manager starting calling me Nobby Nolan.
Alright Kev! I was just wondering if you go on football forums to find out what fans think about you and if so do you ever post on them?
To be honest with you, I never do.
I get a lot of positive mail sent to the club but every now and again there are one or two letters that are not very pleasant. It is not nice to read and although I do read all the mail that is sent to the club it is not something that I go looking for.
Hi Kevin. Enjoying your column. What is you pre-match meal? Are you a chicken and beans man like Alan Shearer?
I used to be a scrambled eggs and beans on toast man but I have changed it over the last couple of years.
I tend to have a couple of bowls of cereal and perhaps a croissant around 12 if we are playing at 3pm. I'll also eat a couple of bananas.
Hello Kevin - great column and keep up the good work for Bolton.
John Terry was in goal for Chelsea against Reading. I just wondered which outfield player would go in goal for Bolton if they had to?
This is a good question and I'm not sure. When I was very young I used to play in goal and I think that I would volunteer. I don't mind going in goal every now and again in training and saving a few shots.
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