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Today Cath and Somaya talk about how time heals.

In English, there is a saying, 'time heals'. It means that after a period of time you will feel better about something bad that might have happened to you.

Sometimes you will hear similar phrases like 'time is a great healer' or 'time heals all wounds'.

But are these sayings true? The results of a twenty year study appears to prove that they might be.

Thousands of people were asked to make a note of their happiness levels before and after life changing events; events that had made an impact on them somehow.

The research showed that it took between two and five years to get over the effects of marriage, childbirth, divorce, widowhood, unemployment, or being sacked.

The phrase 'time heals' is normally associated with negative things that happen to us. But the study suggests that time changes the effect of the positive events we experience too.

The satisfaction of having a baby fades by its second birthday, and the happiness of marriage wears off after 5 years.

Let us know how you have felt after a life changing event, what were your levels of happiness like?

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time heals

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happiness levels

مقدار السعادة

life changing events

أحداث تغير مجرى الحياة

impact

وقع أو أثر

to get over

تجاوز

negative things

أمور سلبية

fades

تتلاشى

wears off

تنفد

Elnour from Sudan believes time can change many things in our lives, especially things which have an impact on our life.

Belal from the Palestinian territories writes:

I think it's true that time heals our wounds. I say this on the grounds of former harsh experiences I faced before.

Khadija from Jeddah tells us:

In my opinion time will never heal the wounds but can cover them and put them in our unconscious part in our brain to protect us from sadness & fears so we think they are gone with the wind or like people say "time heals" but if we want to heal our wounds should be honest with ourselves and face, open and give them the treatment that they need.

Douh from Egypt wrote to us to say:

Time is a wonderful friend and maybe an awful enemy, it is you how decide. You can renew the happy events and study the bad events. You can help yourself, pass the bad events, and remember always the good ones.

Nazik in London says that:

It seems to me that time heals wounds in one way, in that time affects the memory. The bad events that we experience in the rest of life comes back to our mind, we suffer the same agony.

Amira emailing from Yemen sent us this:

If I have bad things, really time heals every thing. Thank you.

From Egypt Joseph writes:

I think that love is the only thing that we can not forget. It is the only thing that has no healer. Even if years passed, there would be such things to remind us of that love.

Babiker in Sudan says:

Time heals. This is beautiful. I think this word is true because time deletes all my wounds, like this sentence. Thank you.

Sofiane from Algeria writes:

No, I don't think so. Time cannot do things like that, because our black days stay in our minds all our lives. Like me, I have a very bad love story and I can't forget it all my life, because I'm human.

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