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Should schools ban Valentine's cards?

Valentine's cards

A school has banned pupils from sending Valentine's cards because they think kids won't be able to handle the rejection if they don't get any.

The headteacher of a school in Weston-super-Mare decided that children who didn't get a card would be upset if lots of their friends did.

So what do you reckon? Do you think it's a good idea that the school's decided to ban them? Or do you enjoy sending and receiving a card for Valentine's, and think this ban is silly?

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"I think you should be allowed to send Valentine's Day cards to each other, but I do understand why kids that don't get one can get upset. They should have a special afternoon for doing Valentine's cards, but where everyone does a card to each other. This way no one is left out."

Krystal, 11, Kent, England

"It is not really good to ban these because someone might really want to send someone something, and they may not get a chance to tell them how they really feel!"

Marwa, 10, Sheffield, England

"No, they shouldn't! What's the point in banning them?! It is fun sometimes not knowing who they are from! They should not ban them from schools!"

Hannah, 12, Essex, England

"I think it is a silly rule! Luckily, our school hasn't banned them, yet. However my gym partner's school has banned Valentine's Day!"

Katie, 10, Somerset, England

"I think sending Valentine's cards at school should not be banned because it's fun to send cards!"

Laura, 7, Dudley, England

"I think it's a silly idea. If the people who don't get cards get upset then they should send their own cards."

Anisha, 11, Shropshire, England

"I think it's just silly. Loads of people send Valentine's cards at my school and no one gets left out!"

Nicole, 10, Derbyshire, England

"I would like to ban it as I don't like it. Lots of people get left out."

Kia, 12, Berkshire, England

"I think everyone should have the chance to send a Valentine's card!"

Leonie, 8, England

"I think Valentine's cards should be banned because some children may get teased about not getting a card and feel left out."

Mithiran, 12, London, England

"I think they should be allowed to do it because it is a fun thing to do."

Rebekah, 11, Bangor, Wales

"I think they should not ban sending Valentine card because no-one will feel left out and everyone has friends."

Hugh, 10, Oxford, England

"I think that's a pathetic rule if the kids that don't get cards get upset over it."

Lucas, 14, Reigate England

"NO! People might be left out but at least SOME people get some happiness in their life! Some people are quite shy and might not want to talk in person to the one they like so they would want to say what they feel in a card."

Emer, 11, Crumlin

"I think that Valentine Day cards should not be banned because it's a way of expressing feelings so banning feelings is just unfair!"

Shree, 12, Slough, UK

"I think we should be allowed, maybe you don't get one this year but you might get one next year."

Tamblin, 10, Surbiton, England

"In my school it's huge and lot's of girls receive Valentine cards. There is a little post box that you put them in, and then they get sent to that person. People send to themselves, because they don't get any. I think it is a great idea and it should be brought in to all the other schools. But I don't think they should ban the cards."

Kaleigh, 10, Buckinghamshire, England

"Yes, I think everyone should send Valentine cards."

Katie, 9, Keyworth, England

"It's sensible, I think I would feel annoyed and upset if no one sent me a card and ALL my friends got one. Wouldn't you?"

Kayleigh, 13, London, England

"I think they should ban them because they leave people out !"

Keana, 8, Swanley, England

"I kind of agree... maybe they should get a nice one from a teacher so they don't feel left out!"

Daisy, 9, Bicester, England

"I think it's stupid that the teacher has banned Valentine's cards - besides, it is a primary school so many of the cards given out are not actually meant!"

Ros, 13, Newark England

"Well I think secondary schools should be allowed to send Valentine cards!"

Lara, 10, London, England

"I think it's silly because in primary schools I would be too young to care and in high school you're too mature to worry."

Jess, 10, Cardiff Wales

"I think that it is a silly rule because some kids just want to express their feelings for another."

Modrocker, 11, England

"I think that banning Valentine cards in a school is really stupid as someone might want to express their feelings in a card to someone and people can just avoid talk of it if they get left out."

Rossi Redgrave, 12, Bury, UK

"I think it is stupid. It's only a bit of harmless fun it shouldn't be banned."

Charlie, 12, Sheffield, United Kingdom

"I think that you shouldn't be allowed in primary schools but should be allowed in bigger schools."

Chantelle, 12, UK

"I think that primary schools should not ban sending Valentine cards as it is fun... however kids may feel left out. But high school kids should definitely be allowed to send cards as they are more mature."

Amz, 13, Manchester, England

"No, because of our age we find it hard to tell someone if you like them. Valentines is a good way of letting them know."

Bethan, 13, Swansea, Wales

"I think that they should not ban Valentine cards because they are just sending them for fun and to express their true feelings."

Mary-Anne, 9, Southampton, England

"I think that cards should not be banned because it is a fantastic feeling when you get one on the other hand people do send prank cards."

Frances, 11, Lewes, England

"I do not send Valentine cards but it's not fair for people who do."

Andrew Davidson, 6, Aberdeen, Scotland

"I think children should be allowed to send Valentine's cards because it is a fun thing to do."

Emily, 8, Yorkshire, England

"I think schools should ban Valentine's cards, because it is really upsetting if all your friends get one and you don't."

Alice, 14, Worcester, England

"I think that maybe they should ban them in primary schools, because in high schools people are more mature."

Natalie, 12, Chester, England

"At school we were making Valentine's cards so I think they shouldn't be banned."

Roksana, 10, Scotland

"I think that this is silly. It makes people feel good when they get a Valentine card."

Mary, 10, Surrey, England

"I don't think Valentine's cards should be banned because it's the children's choice if they want to send them."

Ruby, 10, Brighton, England

"It's not fair to ban Valentine's cards because it's like banning Christmas cards."

Phoebe, 10, Stoke-on-Trent, England

"I don't think they should ban Valentine's cards because it isn't meant to be serious, so no-one should get upset about it!"

Emily, 13, Oxford, England

"I think that children should be able to send each other Valentine's cards."

Luka, 10, Manchester, England

"I don't think that schools should ban Valentine's, maybe have a present exchange!"

Awen, 8, Huddersfield, England

"I don't think that they should ban it because it is good to send cards."

Emira, 13, London, England

"I don't think it should be banned because it is nice to get a card from your friend at school."

Jenny, 9, Cheshire, England

"I think it is a bad idea because it is really fun and gives you happiness."

Sahra, 10, London, England

"I think they shouldn't ban cards because it's nice if you get cards, but it doesn't matter if you don't!"

Daisy, 12, Reading, England

"No, because some friends send them so it can be a bit of fun!"

Kitty, 10, Cardiff, Wales

"This is a silly rule! We should be allowed to send cards."

Saif, 12, Slough, England

"I think it is a stupid idea because it only happens once a year!"

Lilly, 11, London, England

"This is just so silly, after all it's only a bit of fun!"

Kittie, 10, Cheshire, England

"I think that children should be allowed to send Valentine's cards, but not at school."

Maisie, 10, Cambridge, England

"I think that in most primary schools Valentine's cards are rarely sent anyway and it only happens once a year!"

Lisa, 12, Yorkshire, England

"I don't think they should be banned as it is just a bit of fun and nobody will really mind."

Sarah, 10, Lancashire, England

"I think they should be banned. Some children may get loads of cards and others may get none, which is upsetting."

Louisa, 13, London, England

"I think it should be banned, because some people don't get a card and they feel upset!"

Sophie, 12, Manchester, England

"I don't think Valentine's cards should be banned, because if you don't get a card it's not the end of the world!"

Louise, 9, London, England

"I think it is a silly rule, because children can send cards if they want to."

Olivia, 10, Cheltenham, England

"I think Valentine's cards should be allowed in schools because it is fun and makes kids feel liked."

Sophie, 11, Brighton, England

"I think it shouldn't be banned, because it's just for fun and it's not a big deal."

Eevon, 10, London, England

"They shouldn't be banned, it is just a bit of fun!"

Antonina, 12, Newcastle, England

"I think it is stupid to stop children sending Valentine's cards."

Ross, 10, Scotland

"This is so silly, now all the children will be upset because none of them have Valentine's cards."

Billie, 13, London, England

"I think it's a good idea, because it is only a card!"

Keelie, 11, Dorset, England

"I think that schools should not ban them because it is a sign of friendship, it is like saying children cannot have friends."

Owain, 9, Bangor, Wales

"I think that they should ban Valentine's cards from school because some people could get upset if they didn't have one."

Courtney, 11, Somerset, England

"I think that schools should ban Valentine's cards."

Jodie, 14, Lancashire, England

"I don't think they should be banned because it only happens once a year and it's really fun giving them out!"

Sarah, 10, Scotland

"I think it's a really silly idea to ban Valentine's day cards as it is a tradition that has been around for years."

Emily, 14, Norwich, England

"I think banning Valentine's cards is a really silly idea. It's only a bit of fun and exactly the same as Christmas cards!"

Cyd, 10, Bath, England

"I think it's a good idea because some people feel upset if they don't get cards."

Izzy, 11, London, England

"I think this is ridiculous! What's wrong with a little tradition?"

Megan, 10, Cumbria, England

"I do feel that it is a good idea to ban Valentine's Day cards because it is true that many kids get left out and this can make children feel upset and left out."

Savannah, 13, London, England

"No, they shouldn't! I do every year! All it is is a card meaning that someone loves you, our fancies you! Gosh!"

Chloe, 11, Los Angeles, USA

"Instead of banning Valentine's Day cards I think the teachers should make sure everyone gets one, instead of letting no-one have them. I think they are ruining their fun!"

Hannah, 11, Colorado, USA

"It's only once school that's banning them. What's the big deal?"

Isaac, 13, Derby, England

"I think it is a good idea. How would you feel if all your friends got a card or rose and you didn't? I'd be upset. It seems as if they are encouraging bullying of the people who don't get them."

Emily, 11, Cambridge, England

"Children should be able to send Valentine's Day cards to express their feelings for each other."

Emily, 10, Birmingham, England

"It should not be banned because children should be allowed to learn more about relationships."

Scott, 11, London, England

"I think it is stupid! Yes, some people might be left out but you can't stop people. When I was at primary school we were banned, but none of us cared, we just carried on! You can't ban people for expressing their love, even if they are at primary school!"

Ella, 11, Gloucestershire, England

"I don't want Valentines Day cards or presents to be banned in school, ever!"

Finlay, 7, Basingstoke, England

"I agree that you shouldn't have Valentine's cards because bullies might ask how many cards people got, when they know very well that a person may not have received any."

Danika, 13, Harrogate, England

"I think they are only doing it because they care about the children."

Carys, 11, Hampshire, England

"I don't think they should because it is just a bit of fun."

Olivia, 8, London, England

"Yes they should be banned because being excluded can be REALLY hurtful and can lead to fights. Excluding people is just too mean and is asking for problems."

Suzanne, 14, Herts, England

"What's the point of banning them? Most people don't care anyway. It really doesn't matter!"

Katie, 11, Cheshire, England

"I definitely think that they should not ban Valentine's cards. I have never sent one myself but I have received them and it gives you a really nice feeling. I think that their school should arrange something for them to buy from their school and send. My school sold chocolate to put in a box and send to friends and boyfriends/girlfriends. I think this is a really good idea."

Sophie, 12, Bristol, England

"I think that it's a good point, but I never get upset. I personally don't care and you can always send yourself one if it matters that much!"

Sophie, 9, Surrey, England

"I don't think there is any harm in kids sending Valentine's cards. It's never going to last. If people are getting upset about not getting one then don't worry, you'll get one every year when you're married!"

Chloe, 11, Derbyshire, England

"Schools should not ban Valentine's cards because if someone likes you then you wouldn't know without a card! It is also a nice gift for your friends as well."

Chloe, 12, Devon, England

"I think it is a very good idea that schools are starting to ban Valentine's Day cards because not everyone has someone they like, or even are with, and it wouldn't be a nice thing if others got cards and some didn't."

Monika, 13, London, England

"Yes. People in primary school aren't old enough for true love. I know this because three years ago I was in primary school."

William, 13, Leicestershire, England

"I think it a good idea, then nobody gets jealous!"

Ruby, 10, Kent, England

"It is sensible. If all my friends got cards and I didn't, I would be upset."

Milly, 10, Colchester, England

"I think that the idea of banning Valentine's cards just because some kids will get upset if they won't get one is appalling. Some children I know would never want to tell someone they fancy them, so sending a card is a quiet and secretive way of saying so."

Molly, 9, Derby, England

"I don't think schools should ban Valentine cards because it only happens once a year."

Hetty, 11, Lincolnshire, England

"I think this is a good idea, because I would feel left out if all my friends got a Valentine's day card and I didn't."

Rosie, 11, London, England

"I think this is a really silly idea as sending Valentine's cards is just a bit of fun."

Niamh, 13, Ireland

"I think it is unfair to ban valentine cards. It is good fun and has been around for many of years."

Jake, 7, Essex, England

"I don't think there is any harm in kids sending valentines cards."

Chloe, 11, Derbyshire, England

"I think it should be banned because it is hurtful not to get a card."

Zoe, 14, England

"I think it is a very good idea that schools are starting to ban valentine cards because not everyone has someone they like."

Monika, 13, London, England

"I don't think that they should be banned because it is only one day a year and it makes people feel happy."

Ellie, 12, Bedfordshire, England

"I think it is a stupid idea to ban valentine's cards because it is fun to give them out."

Sophie, 13, London, England

"I think it is sensible because a lot of people might be hurt and they might feel left out."

Collins, 11, London, England

"I think it shouldn't be banned because it's not a big deal and it's only a primary school, so children won't really mind."

Adele, 10, Weybridge, England

"I personally think that banning kids from giving Valentine letters is an appalling idea and that no-one in their right mind should ban it. Of course some children may get upset if they don't get one, but I don't often get one and I can cope with it."

Joey, 9, Rome, Italy

"That is quite silly and really makes kids more immature for when they are older. My school has got a delivery service for cards and roses and you can even get the older kids to sing a song to your loved one!! No-one feels left out because of the embarrassment!! I would rather NOT receive one!"

Bethany, 12, Lisburn, Northern Ireland

"I think it's silly because you should be able to show how much you care for someone by giving them a Valentine card. I receive them from my friends and family and we enjoy sharing them with each other, though we like to keep ones from our 'secret admirers' hidden!"

Scarlett, 14, Buckingham, England

"I think it's a really silly rule, because if you can send in birthday cards surely you can send Valentine cards as well."

Mannassiah, 13, Bristol, England

"I bet some kids still will!! Teachers will be banning party invites and Christmas cards next!!"

Emily, 12, UK

"Well, I'm on both sides, because I would be sad if friends got Valentines and I didn't and I would be happy [if I got them] so I'm about 50% on each side."

Petr, 8, Peterborough, England

"Silly, Valentine's day is such a precious day."

Rosie, 11, Edinburgh, Scotland

"I don't think they should be banned because it's not anything serious."

Taylor, 10, Swansea, Wales

"I think it is a sensible idea. I would be sad if all my friends got some and I didn't!"

Reniece, 13, Manchester, England

"I think it's a really silly rule, kids should be able to send cards if they like someone!"

Beth, 10, Buckinghamshire, England