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Last Updated: Friday January 09 2009 18:10 GMT

Are you worried about your parents arguing?

Silhouettes of a man and woman

Children's charity ChildLine says it's been receiving loads of calls from kids who are worried about their parents arguing since Christmas.

As well as being fun, Christmas can also be really stressful and lots of people find themselves arguing more and more, but have you noticed a difference?

Do you worry about your mum and dad rowing, or do arguments always crop up at this time of year?

Maybe you've found yourself arguing with your parents or brothers and sisters more.

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"My mum and dad have been arguing at lot and I have found it hard. I would go to sleep and they would be shouting. They don't even sit in the same room any more."

Georgie, 10, Lincolnshire, England

"My mum and dad argue over the silliest things and they both try to make me side with them. If I leave them alone they usually sort it out; My mum and dad have been together for 17 years and they have never spoken about splitting up."

Megan, 11, Surrey, England

"My parents hardly ever argue so when they do, I get really anxious. Although, occasionally, it can be quite amusing!"

Mia, 14, London, England

"My mum and dad are arguing a lot over me and my education and it's worrying me."

Jennifer, 11, Nottingham, England

"My parents always argue. I hate it."

Holly, 10, Kent, England

"My mum and dad argue all the time."

Amy, 13, UK

"When your parents argue it doesn't necessarily mean they will split up. It means they have both disagreed on something. It can be worrying if you're young, but when you get older you can understand it much better."

Nina, 13, Kent, England

"I worry when parents argue too. It doesn't mean they'll split up, they just might have disagreed on something, they will usually sort it out."

Corrina, 13, Kent, England

"I hate my parents arguing."

Megan, 10, Hereford, England

"My parents are split up. It's hard for me"

Lou, 11, Rhondda, Wales

"My parents don't argue that much, but I hate it when they do when my friends are around."

Robert, 12, Ireland

"My parents fight ALL the time. I really don't care anymore. I do cry though, but they just tell me to stop being a baby. I find their fights pretty funny now! I just get out of their way."

Kash, 12, Bradford, England

"I hate it when my mum and dad argue. I know I may be slightly older than some, but it is just as terrifying. My mum gets angry at my dad smoking all the time and my dad gets angry because he thinks he's tough. Sometimes I hide under a pillow to make them go away."

Megan, 12, Surrey, England

"I think my mum and dad will divorce soon because they're always arguing, and my sister makes it worse by moaning."

Alice, 12, Lincoln, England

"I know my parents will argue, but still I think I know nothing bad will happen."

Jan, 10, London, England

"My parents are always arguing and it used to scare me. Me and my sister built a hideout under the stairs for when our parents argued. I have got used to it now."

Dinu, 12, Richmond, England

"When I was about six my parents would argue a bit but they always kept me out of it. Eventually they got divorced but I have the best of both worlds now - living with my mum and my gorgeous dog, then at weekends staying with my dad and step-mum."

Lora, 12

"It can be really difficult for you when your parents argue. I find that if they have a big argument if you sit down together and talk about it, you can work it out together."

Ellie, 13, Kent, England

"I hate it when my parents fight because it worries me. Sometimes I cry and feel that it is my fault!"

Rebecca, 10, Hertfordshire, England

"My parents are already divorced, but when they were together they didn't really argue. It was more horrible silences with the occasional massive blow-up. They get on fine now, but dad and my step-mum argue a bit, especially since the credit crunch. I think Christmas can cause arguing, especially at a time like this, but it isn't Christmas that causes break ups."

Ellie, 13, England

"I feel like my mum and dad are going to split up because they argue a lot."

Joel, 10, Derby, England

"People argue, it's normal. My advice would be just to get out of the way when things get too bad and not to worry about it too much."

Miles, 10, Hampshire, England

"My parents argue sometimes quite loudly, now they argue quite a lot because of my dad trying to lose weight. My dad can get quite angry/upset by my mum's comments but it is not even near a divorce."

Albin, 12, West Sussex, England

"Oh, everyone has to have a moan about something sometimes! My parents love each other but are arguing over things that don't need to be made a big thing of!"

Helena, 11, London, England

"My parents got a divorce in 2005. I live with my mum and my step-dad. I miss my dad but it is OK because he only lives across the road."

Megan, 9, Hull, England

"My dad sometimes shouts at my mum for no reason but my mum always stays calm. I think divorcing is really scary and hope it never happens to me."

Jasmine, 12, UK

"My mum and dad argue but I'm not worried. They will never split up because they love each other so much."

Ava, 10, Nottingham, England

"My parents were split up for three years and it has been more than a year since they got divorced. The best things to do if you are worried or if your parents are divorced is to stay strong and tell someone you trust - like your friends - because talking to my friends about it helps me. Then I know that I have people to turn to because I am an only child."

Hana, 12, Surrey, England

"I hate it when my parents argue, it makes me feel sad."

Rachel, 12, London, England

"My mum and dad hardly ever argue but I still feel sorry for my friends whose parents have split up."

Emma, 10, Yorkshire, England

"I hate it when my parents argue."

Josephine, 9, Copenhagen, Denmark

"My parents are already divorced! I think it's better because there is no more stress and I have a really nice step-dad and a half-brother!"

Jess, 13, West Sussex, England

"I wish my mum and dad didn't argue all the time. I miss the good times we used to have, and now I have to live with mum, which is okay, but I wish my dad was here."

Raven, 10, London, England

"I'm really worried because my dad always gets moody and I feel like I don't want to live with him anymore, because my mum gets moody as well. Then my little brother doesn't know what's going on and I get really upset."

Lois, 12, Wales

"I hate it when they argue! It really gets me down, I would be DEVASTATED if they broke up (with a capital everything). I feel really sorry for the people whose parents argue every day though. I just want to say, 'stay strong'!"

Natasha, 12, Birmingham, England

"My parents hardly ever ague and when they do it's only about silly things like whether to take the Christmas decorations down on the fifth or the sixth of January. I am sorry for all the people whose parents do argue."

Helena, 11, Isle of Wight, England

"My mum and dad always argue, I really hate it."

Stella, 9, Glasgow, Scotland

"If my mum and dad fell out I would be so upset because it would be sad to have to live with one and not see the other one apart from visits."

Eleanor, 8, Leeds, England

"I worry more about my father's arguing."

Wayne, 10, London, England

"I hate it when my parents argue. It doesn't help the other children when they grow up, and they take it out on you even when you didn't start it."

Ashlie, 12, Leeds, England

"My parents argue every single second of the day! And suddenly my parents are talking about divorce!"

Charmaine, 12, Hong Kong

"My parents don't argue my dad just yells at my mum for 10 minutes every so often."

Jessica, 13, Chester, England

"My parents don't really ever fight and if they do I don't worry about it. I'm sorry to all the kids who do worry."

Becky, 12, California, America

"My parents argue a lot! It really scares me! But they still love each other, even though some of their arguments get very serious! One time they actually planned on divorcing - I was so sad! But I talked to them and they left each other alone for a couple of days and they changed their minds!"

Mira, 11, Chicago, America

"I hate it! It's really upsetting! They speak viciously like they hate each other!"

Natalie, 13, Buckinghamshire, England

"I never get that worried when my parents argue because they normally joke."

Anisah, 10, Edinburgh, Scotland

"I hate it when my mum and dad argue because when I was younger they split up but got back together, and it always reminds me of that."

Melissa, 11, Manchester, England

"My mum and dad are arguing a lot since Christmas. I feel really tense, trying not to spark them off, they do love each other. Well I don't know, I'm a bit worried."

Issy, 10, Kingston, England

"My parents don't really argue, but when they do I get quite scared and I like to be alone."

Leila, 11, West Sussex, England

"I never really noticed how much my mum argued, but ever since my best friend's parents split up I've been more worried. At least three quarters of my class have divorced. I love my mum and dad so much and I can't bear to see them argue!"

India, 10, London, England

"My mum and dad were so happy, but last year they grew apart and got angry and fought all the time. It just made me angry too. Now they've split up and though we're all sad I feel safer without the anger."

Ethan, 14, UK

"Once my parents argued so badly that my mum was crying and my dad slept on the sofa. My brothers and I got a bit scared and worried during the process. Sorry to those of you whose parents have split up!!!"

Lucy, 9, London, England

"As my mum and dad say after they've had an argument 'it's what grown-ups do'. However, when it gets as far as divorce, that is definitely a big issue and you find it really hard at first but eventually you get used to it."

Rebecca, 11, Manchester, England

"It's really hard listening to it but now I just stay in my room if they are arguing."

Laura, 9, UK

"My parents argue all the time! But I don't mind, they still love each other and wouldn't dream of splitting up!"

Georgia, 8, England

"My parents never shout or argue and I sympathise with those who have parents that do."

Joanna, 14, UK

"Yes, my parents argue quite a lot. I start crying and go downstairs to my granddad. Without him I wouldn't be able to cope with the arguments. My parents argue a lot, but I don't think it is just because of Christmas."

Millie, 9, London, England

"Yeah, I get really worried when my parents argue. It makes me feel so angry. But they don't fight as much!!!"

Maya, 12, America

"Gosh, I HATE it when my parents argue. It's never really serious - the worst thing my mum has said to my dad was 'you're lazy!' They argue a bit more at the moment because they've just taken over a business."

Saffron, 13, England

"My parents have split up and I live with my mum and step-dad and I see my dad on Saturdays. It's better for me that my parents divorced because there are no rows now."

Miranda, 10, UK

"In some cases divorce is a good thing. I am much happier since my parents split up, and now I have a wonderful stepfather and six step-brothers and sisters!"

Hannah, 12, UK

"I hate it when my mum and dad argue, especially when it's about me and my little brother fighting or arguing over nothing."

Jade, 10, Glasgow, Scotland

"They always argue at Christmas about whether to get a fake or real tree, and how to wrap up many presents and about the food as well. They argue at other times about decisions and habits. Financial problems are another thing they argue about."

Tharini, 13, south-east England

"My mummy and daddy are shouting lots and lots after Christmas."

Mary, 7, Birmingham, England

"My parents have split up and it was hard. But no matter what, it's not your fault. You may feel under pressure - but that's OK, no-one is blaming you. My mum and dad still argue sometimes, and it doesn't feel nice. But I know that everything will be alright."

Milly, 13, London, England

"I hate it when they argue... I think it should be stopped because the kids get stuck in the middle of it all."

Jodie, 10, London, England

"My mum and dad are already divorced."

Liv, 11, Devon, England

"My mum and dad argue a lot about the credit crunch and my dad's ways. It's really upsetting but I know they still love each other."

Rosebud, 11, Yorkshire, England

"No, because my parents are already divorced."

Callum, 13, Kent, England

"I know my parents love each other, but everyone argues. Loads of the kids I know have parents who have split. Christmas has nothing to do with it."

Emily, 11, UK

"I hate it when my parents argue, though the worst was when I was little, then I would end up waking up at night from the fighting! When my parents do fight I just turn up the sound on whatever I'm listening to and try to block them out."

Lizzie, 14, Cardiff, Wales

"I hate it when my parents argue, but everyone's parents argue from time to time. It would be bad if nobody argued at all in my opinion. My mum and dad haven't argued this Christmas, but that might be because my dad has a really bad flu!"

Abbie, 13, Sheffield, England

"My parents split when I was three but they do have the occasional flip and sometimes I cry."

Freddie, 12, Devon, England

"Yes I do get worried about my parents arguing because when they argue it's like war! But then a few hours later, they are back to normal!"

Lucy, 11, London, England

"Yeah, ever since the credit crunch my parents have been arguing almost non stop. My dad thinks my mum spent too much money at Christmas and my mum wants my dad to get a job. Most of the time I try to block it out but it is very upsetting."

Freya, 13, Berkshire, England

"I hate it when people argue. Mostly Mums and Dads."

Kieran, 8, Dundee, Scotland