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Are you growing up too quickly?

Dani Harmer as Tracy Beaker and Montanna Thompson as Justine

The author who invented Tracy Beaker - Jacqueline Wilson - reckons you're all being forced to grow up too quickly.

The best-selling author says kids are acting like adults way too early in life and thinks parents should do more to protect you.

So, do you agree with Jacqueline? Do you feel under pressure to ditch 'childish' habits in an attempt to look cool with your mates?

Maybe your mum and dad give the freedom to do what you like? Or are they really strict?

Get in touch and let us know!

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Your comments

"I can't wait till I grow up because I want to get a good job and learn to drive so I can get a nice car."

Jack, 9, Edinburgh, Scotland

"People may think they are growing up too quickly, but it is just a part of life."

Jordan, 11, Nottinghamshire, England

"Some kids are growing up too quickly but some kids aren't growing up and are acting like babies!"

Poppy, 10, Sheffield, England

"I think that it is a load of rubbish that we are growing up too fast."

Michael, 14, Aycliffe, England

"We have to grow up quickly because we are always revising for tests and you only have one shot at those so you have to get it right."

Thomas, 13, Derby, England

"I don't think I'm growing up too fast, but I hate it when I'm walking home and police walk past and they give you a dirty look, and I feel like saying "it's not all kids that take drugs and smoke and cause trouble."

Charlotte, 11, Northwich, England

"I don't think she is in a place to talk as she is probably one of the role models for growing up quickly as she did Tracy Beaker. What gives her the right to say that about us, she can't judge everyone based on some people!"

Mary, 11, Sussex, England

"I think we grow up too quickly because we are so influenced by society and pressurised into following trends. We are so obsessed with latest fashions that we forget to be our own people."

Mia, 13, London, England

"I have to look after my four younger sisters an awful lot so I feel like I am treated way older than I am."

Camryn, 15, Los Angeles, America

"I don't think so. I still like playing with some toys. I am interested in clothes and stuff, but not majorly! I'd like to think that I'm still young. Even if I AM 12."

Francesca, 12, Sedgley, England

"I think that we are growing too quickly because of older sisters and brothers."

Caitlin, 9, Highwoods, England

"It is mostly down to peer pressure. As soon as I arrived at secondary school I changed completely."

Bethan, 13, Gloucester, England

"You grow up at times you feel ready... there isn't a too fast or too slow."

Alison, 12, Edinburgh

"If you have the chance not to grow up too fast, then you should do just that. Soon you will be all grown-up and not be able to do all the things that you can do as a kid. I personally have always been an early developer and have in a way had to grow up quick, but if I had had the choice I would have stayed as a kid to be able to do all the things that young children can do."

Lucy, 12, Farnham, England

"I don't think it's a matter of growing up too quickly, it's more of a peer pressure issue as once people hit 13 they all start trying to fit in and compare themselves to something that's not even real in the first place. Magazines air brush the majority of their images and sometimes celebrities put on an act that inspires people in a bad way, making them be too conscious of themselves. People just feel the need to fit in and change their act but no matter how much make up you wear or don't, no matter where you get your clothes from no-one should influence you, and you should be who you are, because in the end would you rather be liked for your fake act or true self?"

Natalie, 13, Southend, England

"I do think that we're all growing up too quickly. At school, all the teachers tell us we are young adults now, but really we're not."

Lauren, 12, Devon, England

"I am not bothered what people think about the way I act I just like being myself. I wouldn't change because I want to be cool with my mates. I don't want to grow up quickly. My mum and dad just leave me to be what I want to be."

Laura, 13, St Helens, England

"I think that I'm growing up too quickly. I don't really have time to play, or spend time to myself. My three younger brothers keep me on toes so much, it's hard to do things."

Lucy, 11, Camberley, England

"My teacher at school said that girls grow up too fast and boys too slow."

Heather, 9, Dundee, Scotland

"I think that sometimes schools are the ones that press us. At my school they always call us young adults, but whenever we are in trouble they call us 'only children'. It's just to make us think we are older so we don't get in trouble. I'm only 11 and all I hear is "you are a young adult so it's your responsibility". It's so annoying!"

Joe, 11

"I don't think that I am growing up too early, because it is my taste. Our mums and dads are just unfashionable."

Rebekah, 10, Norwich, England

"I think that some younger kids, if they hang around with older children or say they have older brothers and sisters, they'll act older and be more fussed about the way they look. I've grown up pretty normally I'd say :) It's fun to be kids =D"

Kita, 14, Saltash, England

"I agree with Jacqueline Wilson. I think kids are growing up too fast and TV programmes are causing that."

Sabi, 10, London, England

"I think that children are growing up too quickly having posh clothes. I am not allowed to have posh clothes, because my mum said they make you look older than you really are."

Luci, 10, Nuneaton, England

"Definitely! I go out and look around and see 11-year-olds dressed in mini-skirts and crop-tops, pretending to be sophisticated. These people are missing out on basic essentials of childhood- like not having to worry about adult problems. Kids shouldn't be burdened and simply be allowed to play and be normal children!"

Jess, 15, Southport, England

"I think SOME people are growing up too fast, but also some are growing up too slow. I think I'm growing up normally, and don't know many "normal" people. I just like to have fun and don't care what other people think."

Tommi, 11, Bathgate, Scotland

"We aren't growing up too quickly, we choose to do the things we do and it's our choice not someone else's."

Stephanie, 15, Stanley

"I think people try and grow up because they want to be like someone older than them !!"

Jade, 12, Stirling, Scotland

"Yes. I don't want to grow up too quickly. I want to do it gradually and not really notice the changes."

Jackie, 12, London, England

"Yes! I know I hate it when people are making you do more coursework and things! Even my friends want me to grow up a bit! It's not fair!"

Beth, 14, St Helens, England

"I think some magazines are to blame as they give away free make- up and have problem pages which some children follow which can effect their lifestyles."

Katie, 12, Calne, England

"I'm not growing up quickly at all! My parents don't let me have any independence whatsoever. I'm not even allowed to walk down to the corner shop by myself. I think I actually NEED to grow up quicker."

Mohsin, 12, Bradford

"I think that I am not growing up too fast and that some people are growing up too slow. As generations change, people grow up quicker and the technology changes. It's just basically technology changing."

Steve, 11, Surrey, England

"We think that we are growing up normally and we are in between being a child and a grown-up. Most of us think that our parents are too strict and don't let us play out enough."

Class 9SC, 13-14, Leicester, England

"Absolutely! I think we should be allowed to be kids and have fun and let other people take care of chores for us until we're a lot older!!!"

Jordan, 12, Oxford, England

"I don't think I've grown up too quickly! I don't have a boyfriend and don't want one. I still have loads of teddies, but I still have freedom to go out on my own if I want to. I think there is waaaaaay too much peer pressure at school."

Harriet, 13, Ryde, England

"Well, I'm 13, but I cried before my birthday because I hated the idea! I'm SUCH a baby... And I really don't want to grow up. And if my friends don't think that's cool - that I don't wear tons of make-up and have a boyfriend, they are friends that aren't worth having!"

Amy, 12, Bouillac, France

"Up to a point, yes. A lot of children don't get to do what they like doing due to looking 'stupid', which is a shame. I create all sorts of magical worlds in my head but I don't tell my friends because they consider it 'childish'."

Emily, 13, Brighton, England

"When you get to the age when you start secondary school you can't believe that you have got to year six. It seems like you only just started primary school yesterday!"

Isabelle, 10, New Malden, England

"I don't think I'm growing up too quickly. My mum and dad have given me freedom, so I can go to town on my own, but they are also quite protective of me."

Jacqueline, 11, Tamworth, England

"Sometimes I feel I'm growing up too quickly."

Suzanne, 12, Hertfordshire, England

"I think kids are being forced to grow up too fast, especially here in the UK. Exams are mostly the reason why kids have to grow up. Stress builds up and you're just expected to cope. It isn't fair on kids to have to do this. I recall a few years ago in year 7 and 8 we were being told that we needed to be more responsible, because we were 'young adults'. In truth we were only 11 or 12, far too young to be told we were adults. It's absolutely ridiculous, you only get one child hood, adults should let you live it."

Emily-May, 15, Cheshire, England

"Yes! I agree with Jacqueline Wilson. She's my favourite author in the whole wide world."

Fennella, 9, London, England

"I've had to grow up quickly, but for kids who have a choice then yeah I agree."

Hannah, 13, England

"I think your parents influence how you grow up more than your friends. Also, if you live in the city you are more likely to grow up faster!"

Sophie, 15, Wick, England