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The Worst Thing Ever

Last Updated: Saturday March 22 2008 09:09 GMT

Have you been affected by divorce?

A scene from The Worst Thing Ever?

NR's special programme - The Worst Thing Ever? - looks at divorce - from a child's point of view.

It tells the story of Darren, whose parents were splitting up, mixed in with the experiences of real-life kids.

Have your mum and dad split up?

How were you affected?

Do you feel better now your parents are apart?

And how have you adjusted to your new life?

If you are upset, remember there are lots of websites which can help. See the links below for places where you can get good advice.

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Your comments

"Oh yeah, I have. It was sooooooooo painful. I was only six when my parents got divorced and I cried every single night. I used to live with my dad and I saw my mum every day, but I still missed her. Now my mum lives with us, but they are not back together. I knew that it wasn't me that made them get divorced."

Helena, 12, London, England

"All you need to remember is that both your parents will love you forever and ever and that it ISN'T your fault. :) Then you will be just fine."

Anna, 12, West Yorkshire, England

"My parents split up about a year ago but I got used to it with help from my brother and sisters because we stuck together."

Alice, 12, Scotland

"My mum and dad split up when I was 9. My dad said we are going away from each other for a while but we will always be a family no matter what."

Charlotte, 11, Yorkshire, England

"Divorce is hard at first but you get used to it after a while. My top tip is to be calm and don't get scared."

Max, 11, Nottinghamshire, England

"I don't think your parent getting divorced makes a difference. Your mum and dad still love you and shall be there for you always. Even if they don't love each other as much as they did."

Michelle, 15, Devon, England

"I was really upset when my dad left I didn't really know what was going on. When my mum told me what had happened I cried myself to sleep every night. My dad moved away and I hardly see him. Now I have a step dad, it is really hard but I am getting there."

Katie, 12, Derbyshire, England

"My parents haven't split up but some of my friends parents have. I think if you're upset or angry the best way is to let off some steam, maybe talk to a friend or have kick about with your mates."

Zenna, 11, Cornwall, England

"My mum and dad split up when I was 8 years old. It was really upsetting when this was happening. They had their divorce last year. The best thing you can do is try and help by looking after your wee brothers and sisters."

Fiona, 13, Scotland

"My mum & dad split up when I was 2. My Dad moved out and we used to go and see him every other weekend but that stopped about 2 years ago. My life has never been the same! If other people are in the same situation you have to get on with your life, if they have walked out on you it's not your fault because you didn't leave them!"

Nicole, 13, Manchester, England

"My parents split up and I couldn't sleep for weeks! It was very stressful and it was nearly time for my SATs so I thought I would do terribly but I managed to scrape a 5 in everything."

Rachel, 11, Lancashire, England

"No but I hate it when my parents argue because they sometimes expect you to take sides."

Francesca, 12, Staffordshire, England

"My parents split up on boxing day last year, it wasn't a very nice Christmas present. It is hard to cope, just make sure you have some people you can talk to, like your friends, teachers or relatives. I think it's really good that putting this issue on Newsround is helping children to cope, thanks :)"

Charlie, 13, Wales

"My parents haven't got divorced but I would hate the feeling if they did."

Mia, 9, Basingstoke, England

"My parents split up last year, it started when I was four, I was really scared but now I am fine with it because I know it wasn't my fault and that both my parents love me."

Lana, 12, Ireland

"I think that you should get some help by ringing a helpline, it really helps."

Katie, 12, Oxford, England

"My parents got divorced when I was three, not knowing what happened I thought it might be my fault but ever since I talked about it to my mum I realised that they both still love me, they just don't love each other."

Lei-la, 11, Cleveland, England

"My parents split up & now I have two families."

Kate, 11, Surrey, England

"My parents split up when I was 5, all I remember was mum saying that she and dad were just going to be friends now, not husband and wife but they were still our mum and dad."

Katie, 10, London, England

"My parents split up just last month and I had to choose who I wanted to be with. In the end I was put in foster care. I'm now in a children's home."

Keely, 11, Middlesex, England

"When I was 5 my mum and dad started to argue. I got so scared, I didn't know what to do but now my mum and dad get along. I'm so sorry for you lot who have a mum and dad who had a divorce!"

Serena, 9, Liverpool, England

"My grandparents divorced and I can't talk about the other one while one's around because they become unpleasant."

Eilif, 11, Rome, Italy

"I feel so bad that kids have to put up with their mum and dad splitting up."

Chantelle, 11, Glasgow, Scotland

"I was in year 2 when my parents split. At first I didn't understand but when my dad told me he leaving home to go somewhere else I cried so much. Me and my siblings go out with him every weekend."

Melissa, 13, London, England

"I think divorce is very unfair to the kids because they might have to choose who to live with."

Sarah, 12, Northern Ireland

"My aunt and uncle split up and it affects me as well as my cousins."

Shannon, 14, Bicester, England

"When I was six my mum and dad split up, at the time I was living in Scotland and now I live in Wales. I felt terrible. I felt like the whole world was about to explode. When I was 9 I found out that my dad was cheating on my mum with one of my mum's best friends. Now I never want to see my dad again. It's not all bad when your mum and dad split up, it is sometimes better. I suppose bad dads run in the family because one of my cousins has had a mum and dad get divorced, and another one never even knew his dad. I wish I never knew mine."

Jack, 11, Wales

"I am sorry for all the kids that have had their parents split up, I think it is very sad and I give them all the best for the future."

Helen, 13, Northamptonshire, England

"I think divorcing is the worst thing in the world. I'm just glad it hasn't affected me!"

Abigail, 9, Lancashire, England

"My parents got divorced three years ago and now my dad has to move out of his flat in two months or he'll be homeless. Divorce is so scary."

Mia, 11, Cheshire, England

"My parents split when I was really little. I can't actually remember, for a while it was me, my mum, my step-dad and my half brother living together and I saw my dad on Saturdays. When I started primary school he stopped coming to see me and I don't know why. I've started counselling now because I started crying about it in a lesson and they said I'm allowed to find my dad and they can refer me to someone. I'm worried about how it will affect my mum."

Kelsey, 12, Buckinghamshire, England

"When I was 3 my parents got divorced because of my dad's way of having a good time. He used to come home late, drunk and rude. My brother and I thought it was our fault that they got divorced."

Tilly, 11, West Sussex, England