"The women are the ones in charge now. They are suffering the most but they are the masters," Mr Alengo says, admitting the women are the hard workers.
The women seldom have time to sit and talk. They cook, clean, wash, care, fetch and carry - be it water or firewood or thatching grass.
They also make sure they are registered to collect their family's food aid rations, in case the men sell them to buy beer.
Feeling more empowered, the women say wife-beating is now less of a problem.