By George Turnbull
Ofqual's "exams doctor"
Ultimatums generally do not work as far as exam revision is concerned. So live with it if you are a parent or guardian.
Nagging will not help either, nor will bribes - generally speaking. So put your wallets away, clear a space and let them get on with it.
Harsh words and a lesson to be learned, but peer pressure and motivation will have the greatest influence on how much they achieve, and progress can only be made where there is a will.
In some cases that way is yet to be discovered. But in any case, avoid that battle of wills which is bound to happen in many households, draining both sides and benefiting neither.
It is their performance that counts - not yours. So keep your distance - although tea, sympathy and understanding from you will help - and a place to study.
Getting started is often their problem. Ours too, if we are honest, on things we do not want to do.
But 10 minutes is all that it takes. This is how it is done. And you can let your reluctant learner read on from here.
What to do
Forget what has happened in the past, only look to the future and what you can do to improve your position and you will be surprised at the progress you will make.
10 minutes is all that it takes. Anyone can do that. But in that time work to the exclusion of all else.
It is better to work for 10 minutes in an hour than to do nothing at all in that time, which is often the case. So start that hour with only 10 minutes of work and then have a 10-minute break. You can do that.
Then begin again and you will have done 30 minutes of quality revision in that hour. Gradually increase the working periods into 40-minute sessions or more, whilst keeping the breaks to 10 minutes or less.
When working work and when relaxing relax. The two do not mix. Remember that, and use the "10-minute rule" whenever you get stuck, along with the other hints and tips given here. We are all different. So choose the ones that suit your way of working best.
Manage your time
Be warned
In the exam room
After the exam
No post-mortems. Do not worry about the exam you have just taken - you cannot do anything about it now. Put the papers in a drawer and look at them again only when your own grandchildren ask to see them. Concentrate instead on the next exam, where you can influence the result.
Don't panic
Being calm and thoughtful will help you to get the most out of your preparation.
And if all else fails, remind your parents that there are more millionaires without GCSEs, A-levels or Highers than there are with. Otherwise, good luck.
Finally for grownups
For those parents and guardians still reading: it is not the end of the world if your offspring fail to make the grade or live up to expectations.
You may have been in that position yourself many years ago, or perhaps you have forgotten. Think about it. It is not easy growing up. You care for them just the same, so let them know it.
George Turnbull is Ofqual's exams doctor and can be contacted at: examsdoctor@ofqual.gov.uk for advice. See links on right for his web pages, where you can watch video answers to students' questions.
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