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Your comments: Living at home

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Almost a third of men and a fifth of women aged between 20 and 34 live at home with their parents, according to the Office for National Statistics (ONS).

The ONS suggests this trend may be a result of higher property prices, unemployment and people choosing to continue their studies.

Another possibility mentioned in the survey is that marriage is becoming increasingly unpopular. Divorce has also forced some people back to the family home.

You've been telling us your reasons for moving in with mum and dad.


At 27, I still live at home with my twin brother, and a younger brother of 22. In my defence, I have been to boarding school for seven years and lived in London for six. Whilst living at home certainly has it's perks - it's considerably cheaper than renting - however, your independence is sacrificed and your parents still ring you at 6pm in the evening wanting to know whether you're coming home for dinner. It's hard trying to find a decent one bed flat in a decent area for a decent price. May as well stay put for now!
Deborah, Belfast

I am 29 and just moved back to my mums due to redundancy - previously I was renting. I would consider buying a property but unlikely in the UK because of the sky high prices. Having a huge mortgage to deal with at the time of my redundancy would have destroyed me.
Thomas , Twickenham

I live with my partner and his parents. We cant afford to move out! We're getting married in August and although its not ideal, we'll be starting married life "at home". If we could scrape together a deposit who would give us a mortgage in this current climate? He works at Nissan which is going through redundancies and I'm going back to university in September to study to be a teacher. Maybe in 18 months time when I'm working and his job is more secure we will be able to think about moving out.
Miriam Goldsmith, Sunderland

I'm from an Italian background and children (male and female) living with their parents well into their mid to late 20's is perfectly normal. What's the fuss about!?
Robert Leather, Manchester, UK

I still live at home with my parents and will be 31 shortly. I would love my own place, but with continuing student debt and other debts, the very high prices of housing, and my low wage, it just isn't even a distant possibility! I never dreamed I would be at home at my age, but I can see no way out in the present economic climate.
Nat, UK

I am 25 and live with my parents. I am saving for a property at the moment but with current mortgage and deposit rates, I cannot afford to move out yet. There are advantages to living at home - saving money on bills, etc. and it is nice to have family time, but you reach a certain age when you want to be independent and need your own space. I find it impossible to do this at the moment with current property prices. Yes, I suppose I could rent but then in my opinion, that is money going into someone else's pocket. Whereas, I can try and save as much money as possible for my own property, whilst living with my parents. I have lived on my own in America and the UK before so I have experience of how expensive the current housing market is.
Soraya Najafi, Newcastle Upon Tyne, United Kingdom

I'm a single 32-year-old and still live at home. Although I earn a good salary I could never realistically afford to buy a house and run it on one income and have a work-life balance. This is because of artificially inflated house prices and I can only see this trend increasing in future years unless something is done about it. Anyway, so what if adults live at home, what's the big deal?
J Evans, Swansea, Wales

I am 27 currently self employed with a good income, married and just found out I have a kid on the way. We both live with my parents. Is this wrong? Social stigma says we are, but with average houses at 12.7 times average income, what else can we really do? Friends who have jumped on the property pyramid scam in the last five years are wondering when they will save enough to afford to wed! Ones who have a family home (two bed plus) and want a family, but are tied into their houses are saying they wont ever be able to have kids as their mortgage is more than one of them can afford and by the time wage inflation catches up their partners may no longer be able to have kids! Living with parents is great, rent is cheaper, we get a nice Sunday roast and have our own living room (which is the third bedroom). Most of the time my parents are out so we get the whole house to ourselves.
James, Oxford

I've finished a computing degree from the University of Ulster in 2007, from which I was able to start working as an IT Technician. But after being made unemployed, I am currently finding it impossible to find work. So, I have no other choice to live with my parents for the time being, but even if I was employed, I do not think I would move out of my parent's home as the cost to do so would more than likely be far too costly.
Brian Huey, Armoy, Northern Ireland

It took 30 years to get room service right, why sacrifice the privileges for the benefit of doing your own ironing?
David Dennis, Nottingham

This is highly unsurprising to be honest, with rising house prices, living costs etc etc. I live at home with my parents, now they are coming to an age where they want a more relaxing lifestyle, I am able to take on the household bills, without the worry of a mortgage to pay and am able to provide a far better lifestyle for all of us. My parents therefore have no bills to pay and thus have a better lifestyle, more disposable income to spend on holidays and recreation. There does come the odd annoyance of having to live under the same roof I guess but it keeps me in line and I believe this makes for a better society. The binge drinking and lazy society we live in today is all due to lost family values and this I believe stems from a poor connection with family in general.
Keg Gillett, Cheltenham

I still live at home with the parents aged 31. While its fair to say its not cool it does seem to make financial sense if you're single and of course get on with your parents. The economies of scale make financial sense for all in the house. I do pay a fair contribution to the running of the house which I jokingly call mum tax, I have known others who just pay a token gesture each month which isn't really fair at my age and whilst earning.
Andrew, Colchester

I am 31 and live at home. The fact of the matter is that I cannot afford to rent never mind buy my own home. There are of course advantages to living with my parents but, these are often outweighed by the lack of privacy and feeling somehow inadequate that I still have not left "the nest" at my age. I get seriously frustrated that I see council properties boarded up or lying empty. I'm sure there are more people than myself who do not have enough "points" to secure a council flat (I have no children, a full time, albeit low paying job and I was actually born in the UK!) who given the opportunity would take one of these properties, invest some time and have it as a home. This could also take some of the bad look off local housing estates. Not all people live at home as an excuse to get their meals handed to them and their washing done!
Elaine Ferguson, Bangor, Northern Ireland

I shall be moving back in with my mother next month. This is due to divorce, a failing business and the inequalities of the benefits system. I am 46 and have three children, one of whom suffers from asperger's. I can only hope that I will be on my feet again in a few months.
Martin Willoughby, Stevenage, UK

I was 40 in January and still live with my parents. The simple reason is down to the last 12 years of uncontrolled, over inflated, and unrealistic house prices. I've tried to put my name on the council's housing waiting list and was told a single man can expect a wait of eight to ten years!!! This morning a man on TV was saying how they'd like to see house prices rise to their "normal" price, but also said we will see an end to 90% mortgages! How do they think we can raise those kinds of deposits exactly then? The word greed springs to mind.
Terry Stevens, Broxbourne, England

Having gone through a divorce and paying CSA money to my ex wife for our children, I have no option but to live at home. 20% of my salary is a lot of money and with rental prices the way they are at the moment, its impossible to have a home over my head - unless I met someone else and moved in with them.
Craig, London

I still live at home with my parents at 29. It's not straight forward for me to move out as I'm not in a serious relationship so I can't move in with my partner and I can just afford to move out by myself. Also what would be the point of living in a flat by myself with no money. I'm happy at home at the moment with a lot of disposable income. I like to think my disposable income is a big help in stimulating the economy. Until it's financially viable I'm staying.
Andrew, Liverpool

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