Michelle Lennon has seen her husband embark on two tours of Iraq.
Michelle Lennon tries not to let herself worry about her husband's safety
In 2003, when Warrant Officer 2 Sean Lennon was first posted to Basra, coalition action in Iraq had only recently ended and unrest in the city was rife.
By the time of his second tour in November 2008 as a member of 5th Battalion The Rifles (5 Rifles), a reduced UK troop presence was based on the outskirts of the city and responsibility for security handed to Iraqis.
"In 2003, we didn't know what to expect," Mrs Lennon said.
"Now you tend to take it more in your stride because it's become the norm for troops to be sent away to Afghanistan or Iraq."
The couple, from Colchester, Essex, who have two daughters, have also found it easier to keep in touch.
In 2003, her husband was in reconnaissance and two weeks could go by before Mrs Lennon, 32, heard from him.
WO2 Sean Lennon has undertaken two tours in Iraq
"He is now able to telephone most evenings if he wants to and we send e-mails almost every day," she said.
"This time it's been harder for the children because they understand what's going on. They realise he is going away for six months at a time," she added.
And living with safety concerns?
"I'm one of these people who will not worry until something happens," Mrs Lennon said.
"If I did, I would think about it constantly. Some people I know do that and it plays on their mind constantly and gets them down."
In June 2003, a month after major combat operations had been declared over, six members of the Royal Military Police undertaking training and reconstruction duties were killed by an armed mob in a police station in Al Majar al-Kabir, north of Basra.
John Hyde said the courage of the armed forces ''tended to be forgotten''
Among the dead were Lance Corporal Ben Hyde, 23, from Northallerton in North Yorkshire, and Corporal Simon Miller, 21, from Washington, Tyne and Wear.
"What tends to get forgotten is the courage displayed, not just by Ben and his comrades but by our armed forces generally," L/Cpl Hyde's father, John, said.
"If the Iraqi security forces are capable of maintaining the security of the country themselves with a democratic government, that's what Ben and the lads died for."
Mr Hyde has interviewed Ben's friends for a proposed book about his unit's achievements in Iraq.
And in 2006, he set up the Ben Hyde Memorial Trust.
More than £30,000 has been raised for the Royal Military Police Central Benevolent Fund and community projects in Northallerton, whose residents turned out in force to honour L/Cpl Hyde at his funeral.
John Miller, meanwhile, is still asking questions about the British mission in Al Majar al-Kabir that led to his son's death.
John Miller continues to ask questions about his son's death in Iraq
"There was no planning, there was no afterthought to the whole thing," he said.
"They stuck these guys out in what was basically the Wild West and just left them.
"They were screaming out all the time for comms [communications]. 'Can I have some. Can I have a mobile phone to take with us. Can we have more ammunition'.
"We still don't know to this day what happened in that police station.
"The only people who know are the actual murderers. And of course on the other side of it.... from the military point of view, who was responsible for putting... [them] into that position?"
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