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China's child policy: your stories

Officials in Shanghai are urging parents to have a second child. This is the first time in decades that the Chinese government has actively pushed for more babies by highlighting exemptions to the "one-child policy".

You've been contacting us to share your experiences. Here is a selection of your stories and comments.

LI YUN, NOW IN SEOUL, SOUTH KOREA

Li Yun
'Little emperors' feel lonely according to Li Yun

I'm from Shanghai but I'm studying at University in Seoul now. When I finish my studies, I'd like to go back to Shanghai or to study more at graduate school in the States. This is good news for us because our modern cities are full of old people. Young people are needed.

People born in the 1980s in China are lonely. I don't have brothers or sisters. When I was a kid, I never thought about brothers or sisters because every kid was the same as me. We were all 'little emperors'.

When I grew up, I realised that I was lonely. I don't know how to share good things or sadness. Now I'm an adult, I've moved away from my parents and I should learn how to share with my friends and ask them for help. Sometimes I feel lonely, but I won't let my children get the same feeling as me. Hopefully I will have more than one child.

SEASON FEI, SHANGHAI, CHINA
Season Fei
For Season Fei, 'the policy is not the hurdle, parents are'

I am single but if possible I want to raise more than one child with my future wife! What I am concerned about is the financial burden of doing that.

I am pretty disgusted by the sort of competition that parents put their children through. They spare no effort to send their children to the best and most expensive schools. Children aged five or six have to take several tests to get in those star schools. I have seen some of the tests and even an adult like me could not handle them well.

Some parents I know quit their jobs just to help their child prepare for school tests. Can you imagine it? So you see - the policy is not the hurdle, parents are.


More comments and emails:

I strongly support the single kid policy. If you can afford to pay the fine, you probably have enough to raise the kid with education. And we take up a large portion of population: without the single-kid policy, it might become overwhelming. If you can pay a fine to have another kid, I don't think it's a human rights issue. You still have the choice.
Gisele, Shanghai, China

I am not married but I'd like to have two children: one girl and one boy. I don't want them to be so called 'emperors'. Many children nowadays are selfish, they don't know how to share with others. Two children can be more independent, sociable and considerate.
Anna, Shanghai, China

I do support this 'two-child policy'. As we know, our country is developing and so are our cities. And we need changes to improve our social structure, it's really good.
Dave Bao, Hangzhou, China

The one-child policy is somewhat misunderstood. If you are not one of the majority Han Chinese ethnic group you can have more than one child. Same goes if you marry a foreigner, if you have a second marriage, if you live on a farm in the country or if you have a child with disabilities. What has happened is that people have grown up in the cities with aspirations of making a comfortable life for themselves before having children and many leave it too late. Just like in the West.
Bob Connell, Zhangjiagang, China



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