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Our first baby was stillborn. I gave birth to her ten days after her due date. I went into labour so went to hospital but kept getting sent home. When the hospital eventually took me in, there was no heartbeat. My baby had died. If my care had been better, we would probably have a beautiful toddler called Juliette.
Silvia Bove, London UK

My daughter was born asleep at 37 weeks of pregnancy. She was a perfect, beautiful baby girl. I cannot begin to explain the devastation we have felt since her birth. My pregnancy was classed as low risk and in my opinion my daughter was one of the 40% of stillborn babies who could have been saved with a later scan in my pregnancy. Far too many babies are dying everyday and far too many parents are facing the worst time of their lives.
Laura, Hinckley, Leicestershire

I have sadly just lost my third baby. Despite my history of loss I received no better care during this pregnancy. I have just returned from my baby's cremation this morning. I don't have the mental strength to even consider a further pregnancy.

Anon , Derbyshire

My first son was stillborn at 39 and a half weeks. He just stopped moving one day. After I gave birth to him (knowing full well he was already dead) they told me that the cord had a true knot in it and was around his neck three times. I know that doppler scanners can detect this problem in the uterus so why can't this be done as routine within the last 10 weeks? It's been eight years since we lost our first son and I will never get over it. I've just learnt to live with it.
Becki Shaw, Switzerland

If a mother dies during childbirth there is a huge enquiry, but if the baby dies it is just seems to be accepted as "one of those unfortunate things". My daughter Holly was stillborn at 27 weeks and no-one has been able to explain why. She was my only daughter and she is forever loved and missed.
Lynne Foden, Leicester, England

It is sad to see nothing has changed over the last 13 years since losing my son six days after his birth. I believe he died due to the lack of available trained midwives. Hopefully raising public awareness to these issues and taking action to attract, train and retain highly qualified midwives could reduce the chances of other parents suffering as we have done.
Andy Davis, Worcester Park, Surrey

My baby should be 14 months old today, but she was stillborn. In my case, I believe it was because I was allowed to go too far past my due date. I can relate to a lot of the issues mentioned in the article: My antenatal appointments were few and far between, and always rushed; none ever lasting more than 10 minutes. I was not given any information on stillbirth, nor was I advised that it could be an issue with an overdue pregnancy. Fourteen months on I still struggle with the grief of losing my baby.
Helen Haythornthwaite, Colne Lancashire

I lost Isabella at 38 weeks last August. I saw my midwife on around four occasions. All the other times I saw stand-in midwives. The hospital staff were amazing though. I was in labour for two and a half days and I couldn't have done it without them. However, the after care was disgusting. I would love to become pregnant again but I am so scared of the same thing happening again.
Anon, Denbighshire North Wales

I lost a baby to stillbirth 24 years ago. I do blame it on the bad doctor and midwife system. I was nearly 37 weeks pregnant just before Christmas and I felt they did not want to deal with a slightly premature baby so was told to go home. I was supposed to receive midwife care. It was on my next antenatal check that they found my baby had died. I think it's sad that 24 years later nothing has improved.
Carys Powell, High Wycombe

At 39 weeks gestation in May last year my baby girl's heartbeat stopped. She was delivered lifeless two days later. She weighed 6lbs. We had a growth scan at 34 weeks which seemed ok but no follow ups. After this scan, little did we know but our baby wasn't gaining any more weight but losing it. I definitely believe that my little girl would be here if I had received better care. Instead I am pregnant again with her little brother and only this time, after losing a child, am I receiving 'Gold Star' treatment which is wrong. Losing a child is a high price to pay.
Natalie , Rainham, Essex

I'm not sure that the loss of my son Charlie (who was stillborn at 36 weeks) could have been avoided. We turned down a post mortem because we felt that he had maybe suffered enough and it wouldn't change the outcome, we still wouldn't have a baby. I would like to say however that the treatment I received was fantastic. I now have another son, Henry, who was born exactly a year after Charlie. I do feel it should be highlighted that there are some great midwives out there who are doing an amazing job.
Sarah Bradley, Kingston upon Thames, England

My first pregnancy back in 1997 resulted in a stillbirth at 36 weeks. I would like to make it known that I felt I had the best care from my midwives. They were very sensitive and exceptionally caring. I have since go on to have four more children; two boys 14 months apart and identical twin girls.
Jane, Lt Paxton, Cambs

Myself and my wife lost our beautiful daughter Lois on 9th December last year. If we had received the care in the last three weeks of the pregnancy that we had in the preceding months, our daughter would now be alive, I am convinced. Our debriefing yesterday, including the post-mortem results (events more horrific than I would care to wish upon even my worst enemy), showed a lack of admission of responsibility on the part of the hospital that is frightening. SANDS is correct - 17 a day is too many.
Graeme, Liverpool, UK

Can I say as a mother to a stillborn daughter nearly eight years ago, I still feel this is a subject that is brushed under the carpet. You are given no warnings of this when pregnant and you may see two lines in pregnancy books. This is a serious subject close to my heart. I feel there is still not enough support within our system for people like myself. It's like it's a taboo subject that people will not talk about.
Amanda Goode, Worcestershire

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