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Tuesday, 6 August, 2002, 14:31 GMT 15:31 UK
What would you like played at your funeral?
More and more funerals are being conducted to the sound of pop music says a report from the Co-operative Group's Funeral Service.

The favourite request for grieving families to personalise the send-off of a loved one is Bette Midler's version of Wind Beneath My Wings from the film Beaches.

Also in the top ten funeral tunes are Celine Dion's Titanic hit My Heart Will Go On and Elton John's Candle In The Wind which was popularised by him playing it at Diana, Princess of Wales' ceremony.

More interesting choices include Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go by Wham!, Queen's Another One Bites The Dust and even the theme tune to ITV's News At Ten.

What would you choose to be played at your funeral? Have you encountered really unsuitable music at a service? Do you feel pop music is too irreverent for a send-off?

Have your say

Wouldn't mind the national anthem just to torture everyone.
Lawrence, UK

Radio Ga Ga with everyone doing the hand clapping

Ian, UK
Radio Ga Ga by Queen, with everyone doing the hand clapping. Then Saturday Night by Whigfield to finish off the aerobics session.
Ian, UK

One Step Beyond by Madness, and the sax player would fly in the air as in the Baggy Trouser video. Inscribed on the headstone would be "Do you feel lucky punk?"! Taste or what?

Without doubt it would have to be Bob Dylan's Mr Tambourine Man... a song for both life and death.
Peter Lancy, Australia

The theme to Pulp Fiction. Brilliant!
John, UK

A friend of mine has planned their own funeral in some detail and has requested that the final song be Ding Dong the Witch Is Dead from The Wizard of Oz.
suzie, UK

I want everyone at my funeral to be really sorry

Owen Allaway, UK
The Blue Room by The Orb. It's a 40 minute long ambient track. I want everyone at my funeral to be really sorry that I died.
Owen Allaway, UK

Midnight Cowboy by John Barry. I'd have the original playing as my mourners entered, and then the Faith No More cover playing as they left.
Preshaa, UK

Agadoo would be the tune for me along with all the actions and then everyone down to the pub. A 21 party-popper salute before anyone is allowed a drink. Obviously I would want a fancy dress funeral too and karaoke at the wake.
Will, UK

I think it would have to be Staalfur by Sigur Ros or Joga by Bjork. Both beautiful songs which would be guaranteed to have all and sundry in tears. Or even Don't I Hold You by Wheat. It's a good way to inflict your favourite songs on your friends and family one last time!
Jon, UK

I'd like everyone to be given a sketch pad and, whilst listening to the Take Hart gallery music, to draw a little... Otherwise, Living In A Box and Knock Three Times were suggested in this office!
Chris, England

Survivor's Eye of the Tiger extremely loud

Steve Hickling, UK
I would have to be jogged into the church with Survivor's Eye of the Tiger playing extremely loud.
Steve Hickling, UK

Nothing will ever beat the last gesture I was able to organise for my best friend at his funeral last year. A massive Dr Who fan, I arranged for his coffin to disappear behind the curtain to the sound of the tardis dematerialising - exactly what he wanted! Even the vicar smiled!
Peter Martin, UK

I have already instructed my friend Robert that he will be singing the Noel Coward song Someday I'll Find You at my funeral.
Lila, England

I've had this one covered for some considerable time now. The song I would like is the Birdie Song by The Tweets. My reasoning, well I think that if I'm having a particularly bad day why shouldn't everyone else!
Norm, Luxembourg

Almost anything from Enya. Her music is so soothing and spiritual. As well as What A Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong. It is one of the best songs in all of humanity. It encourages love, peace, with a soft upbeat tempo.
Kent, Winnipeg, Canada

Donna Summer - I Feel Love (17 minute version) with Public Enemy scratched over the top!
J Rob, UK

Goldfinger... as I slide into the incinerator.
Scott McKay, USA

I'm surprised no-one has nominated the music at the end of Warner Bros Looney Tunes, with Porky Pig saying "Th-th-th-that's all folks!"
Michael, UK

I'd love to hear Higher Ground by Stevie Wonder (musical genius) played at a funeral because it's a beautiful song.
Brian G, Edinburgh

Sound Of Silence by Simon and Garfunkel would be the one for me - reduce all those women who hankered after me all my life to tears!!
James, England

You've Got A Friend, sung by James Taylor written by Carole King. Simple and moving, it could reduce the room to tears.
Pete, UK

How about the theme tune to Beadle's About - just to keep everyone guessing to the last!
Jim, UK

I Wish You Were Here by Aloof. I'd also ask a friend to spread rumours about the punch at the wake.
Nathan, UK

Something you'd sing at a karaoke

Becka, Canada
I think a good rule for choosing such a song would be something you'd sing at a karaoke. For me, it'd have to be Liza Minnelli's version of Cabaret. And I'd like a chorus line doing some Fosse moves around my casket.
Becka, Canada

I like tradition: Amazing Grace by a lone bagpiper (preferably an Irish cop from NYC) while folks are being seated; a few wise cracks from my friends for transition (no sermons!) then a New Orleans street band playing When The Saints Go Marching In so everybody can dance and work up an appetite to eat a feast for fun. Only tears of joy allowed!
Brenda, USA

That's Life by Frank Sinatra - it will make those who listen to the lyrics smile while it's sombre enough to not offend my gran!
Katie, UK

I am going out to good old fashioned Christian hymns

Gary Hargreaves, United Kingdom
I have already chosen my funeral music at the age of 39! I am going out to good old fashioned Christian hymns. Love Divine and Can It Be, Up From The Grave He Arose and Hark the Herald Angels Sing.
Gary Hargreaves, United Kingdom

It's got to be Hello Goodbye by the Beatles.
Daniel, UK

Pop music at a funeral is the most tacky thing I can think of. Whatever happened to singing hymns?
Rich, UK

My late husband has a wicked sense of humour and was a front man/singer in a band. He wanted the Barber Adagio spliced at the climax with great balls of fire. He got it and the congregation thought it was wonderful, funny and highly appropriate.
Heather Ford, England

Move On Up by Curtis Mayfield, Heroes by David Bowie, Oh My Love by John Lennon.
Helen, UK

I would have The Cedar Room by Doves... amazingly dark tune but with an uplifting feel to it as well.
Paul, England

Queen's Bohemian Rhapsody. I came into the world with that song. There's no reason why I shouldn't go out with it.
David, UK

My choices would be In My Life by the Beatles, to make everyone cry, and maybe Dancing In The Street by Bowie and Jagger, so they can boogie out!
John M, UK

Tell Me There's A Heaven by Chris Rea.
Rick Cutler, Thatcham, UK

Leave Them All Behind by Ride.
Simon, UK

Be careful what you choose. You may burden your loved ones with painful memories which will be re-kindled every time they hear that music. I can't listen to anything by REM since hearing Everybody Hurts at the funeral of a friend who killed himself.
Al, UK

I Am The Resurrection

Jon, UK
I Am The Resurrection by the Stone Roses, just to remind everyone I ain't going anywhere. I'm coming back to haunt all those who made my life a misery!
Jon, UK

For me it would have to be Goin' Back by Dusty Springfield - the greatest.
Roger, London, UK

I'd like, Who Wants to Live Forever by Freddie Mercury and Queen!
Val, UK

'We're off to see the wizard, the wonderful wizard of Oz', of course!
Stuart, England

What A Waste, just to please my mum!

Graham, England
Only one choice for me: Ian Dury and the Blockheads' What A Waste, just to please my mum!
Graham, England

I'd like to have Knocking on Heaven's Door by Guns'n'Roses.
Janine, UK/Singapore

I went to a cremation a couple of years ago and as everyone was leaving Firestarter by the Prodigy was played. During the service Champagne Supernova by Oasis was also played, which was strange as the person died of an overdose.
Phil Tood, UK

One Step Beyond by Madness.
Paul, UK

Unfinished Sympathy

Hannah, UK
Definitely Massive Attack's Unfinished Sympathy. The best record ever!
Hannah, UK

Straight to Hell by The Clash is the one for me.
Nick, UK

Too many to choose from - for when the coffin goes on its merry way! Either See You Later Alligator (for the novelty value, and maybe a bit of a sing along) or My Way - the Sid Vicious version, just to annoy relatives, cranked up to 100. Failing that, then Symphony of Destruction by Megadeth or Sympathy For The Devil by the Stones.
Ed K, UK

I'd like the theme to Big Brother with Marcus Bentley saying "Philip - will you please leave the Big Brother Planet?"
Philip, UK

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life from Monty Python's Life of Brian.
STC, England

I Will Survive, just for the irony

Pete Hazell, UK
I think pop music at funerals is a fine idea, but I'd have to be dead to withstand having most of the top ten played in my presence. Personally I'd go for I Will Survive, just for the irony.
Pete Hazell, UK

Elton John's Song for Guy sums it up for me with the words "Life isn't everything" at the end. But for a laugh, AC/DC's Highway To Hell. Now that's tact for you.
Mick Deal, UK

The Benny Hill Show theme tune as my coffin slides along into the incinerator.
Steve Brown, Britain

Either Fruit Tree by Nick Drake. It's a beautiful, melancholy song that tells of the artist's despair that often true talent and genius is only recognised after death. Failing that it would have to be the theme tune from Happy Days.
Andy, UK

I'd like I'm Only Sleeping by the Beatles played at my funeral. I love sleeping and I believe in reincarnation - so it seems fitting both ways.
Sally-Ann Cox, UK

If I get cremated I have always fancied Disco Inferno by the Tramps: "Burn baby burn..."
Michael Wailes, England

If someone played Elton John or Celine Dion at my funeral I'd come back and haunt them!
Tom, UK

I would want Rabbit by Chas and Dave and insist that everyone sings along.
Phil, UK

Songs that I knew would annoy certain people

Emma, England
I would have to have something really depressing like With Or Without You by U2 and then something really uplifting like Get What You Give by the New Radicals. I would probably include a couple of songs that I knew would annoy certain people, just so they wouldn't feel so bad about me dying...
Emma, England

I think any music that personalises a funeral is better than no music at all. The only cremation I've ever been to was impersonal and there was no music whatsoever. Not even a short hymn. I'd like Shine Jesus Shine at my funeral (which will NOT be a cremation!) which is my favourite hymn.
Emma, England

If you have had a happy life then I think this is great idea for a send off. My mum is a daft character and wants one of her fave tunes Spirit in the Sky by Norman Greenbaum played at hers! Guess I will have to grant her final wish!
Laura Pratt, UK

Depends what kind of mood I was in when I died. Happy would be Janet Jackson and Luther Vandross, The Best Things In Life Are Free. And everyone would have to dance as well. Sad would be Everybody Hurts, REM. Onions would be provided to induce tears, if necessary.
Matt, UK

I'd like Time Flies By When You're The Driver Of A Train by Half Man Half Biscuits. I'd then like to be buried in my Trumpton pyjamas.
Ciaran Mullan, Dungiven

What music would you like played at your funeral? That's fighting talk where I come from!
Gary, UK

Stairway To Heaven... that's my song, brilliant choice if I say so myself.
Mel, London

What's wrong with you..? I am still thinking about living my life...
Vishal Rao, UK

Lyrics projected across my coffin

R Callister, UK
I don't want my funeral to be a completely sombre affair, but I'd want one moment of thought and reflection, whilst Radiohead's Street Spirit (Fade Out) is played, complete with lyrics projected across my coffin for people to read... just a shame I wouldn't hear that great song one last time.
R Callister, UK

I would like to have Russ Abbott's What An Atmosphere lyrics: "I love a party with a happy atmosphere" played at my funeral.
Vicky, England

Nothing; so that the sound of all the millions of ladies wailing at my departure can be heard all around the globe.
Alex, UK

The Pixies' Monkey Gone To Heaven.
Mark, UK

Going Underground by the Jam is a winner.
Joe, UK

Happy pop songs at my funeral - no chance, I want everyone to be thoroughly miserable and there to be much wailing and gnashing of teeth.
Ed, UK

Cremated to Ozzy Osbourne's Diary Of A Madman with dry ice creeping out of the coffin as it slides into the inferno...
Keith, Northern Ireland

Light My Fire by the Doors: my way of keeping people in church for at least 30 minutes!
Kenny, UK

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