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Tuesday, 25 June, 2002, 12:35 GMT 13:35 UK
What do Indian women want?
Courting couple
Attitudes to sex are changing fast
A total of 2,150 women across 10 Indian cities were questioned in the national survey published in the latest issue of a national weekly, Outlook.

Fifty finve percent of those questioned want their men to be virgins before marriage.

They say, they hate dishonest and disloyal men but love those who understand them.

When asked, do they really need men, 78% of them said yes.

"It wasn't money, property or career prospects, or even looks and a good body, that mattered the most," the magazine said.

So what are the qualities they are looking for in the man of their choice?

Whant matters most was how sensitive a man was to a woman's needs. He had to listen to her, treat her as an equal and be honest to be in her good books.

Though carried out in large cities only, the survey also questioned some illiterate women, who placed more emphasis on equality with men compared to the well-educated women.

Interestingly too, the myth of the quietly suffering India wife was also shattered as "good sex was almost unanimously considered most important for a good relationship."

In fact, 51 % said they would want their men not to be sexually experienced, while 37 % were okay with a "moderately sexually experienced man."

The days of women's repressed sexuality seems to have gone as 43 % of them, while making love, will not mind taking sexual initiative.

And 58 % of them were bold enough to tell their husbands all about their former boy friends.

Good looks, spirituality and money came last in their hubby wish list.

Those who slouch on the sofa and order their wives to run around are clearly out of favour. 80% Indian women want their men to help them in domestic chores.

And a final warning to those oppressive bullies if you hit your wife, 34 % will hit you back and 31 % will leave you for ever.

India's urban women may be refusing to suffer silently any more, but in a traditionally male dominated rural India, where a vast majority of women live, women still face discrimination, abuse and even violence.

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