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Last Updated: Saturday, 27 August 2005, 07:35 GMT 08:35 UK
Women 'keep more after divorce'
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Women are more likely than men to keep joint possessions when getting divorced, according to research.

Men on average wanted their ex to keep 19 items from a list of 24 including the home, photographs and pets, while women wanted the men to get just eight.

While women did not particularly want items including the television, CDs, DVDs, and toaster, they were keen their ex-husband did not get them.

YouGov polled 3,515 people in May and June for Yorkshire Building Society.

The poll found men were keen for their ex to keep items including the bed, television, wedding album, lawnmower and garden accessories, house plants, coffee machine, Monopoly board and the family pet.

Emotional attachment

One item that men were determined to keep for themselves was the house - 32% wanted it to keep it outright, compared with 30% who were happy to wholly hand it over to their ex-wife.

The men also wanted the car, the laptop computer, digital camera and CD and DVD collections.

Half of women wanted the family home outright, but even more - 64% - wanted the dog or cat.

Women have a far greater emotional attachment to their home and its contents
Relate counsellor Denise Knowles
They were happy for their former husband to keep the bed, sofa, lawnmower, coffee machine, laptop, digital camera, PlayStation and any wine and drinks they had.

Ultimately 46% of women did keep the house, compared with 29% of men, with other couples selling.

Denise Knowles, a counsellor at Relate, said: "These findings reflect the hugely different emotional attachment that divorcing men and women feel towards their shared possessions.

"Men are far keener than women to put their past behind them and want to move on, which is why they are happy to let their ex keep almost all of their shared possessions - apart from those items that provide entertainment such as the car, digital camera and music system.

"Women, by contrast, have a far greater emotional attachment to their home and its contents, seeing these things as the fabric of their lives and things that should be preserved both for themselves and any children as symbols of their family history and life."

But the Divorce Recovery Workshop, a charity which helps people deal with separation, said it was difficult to make generalisations.

"Some men can be vindictive. Many women are certainly not vindictive," its spokesman Peter Allen told BBC Radio Five Live.

"They just want to get on with their life as best as possible, try and work out what went wrong and how to move forward."

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